Going To The Movies

Watching our Parents interact with each other as kids is very much like watching a movie over and over again!Were they respectful and kind or angry and disrespectful?How did they treat you when a problem occured or you did something wrong?This is such an important factor in the way we percieve what relationships are supposed to be like.If you are a parent yourself, which one of your parents are you most like?Do you find yourself doing the exact same things that as a kid you vowed never to do?This is because we have watched our parent or parents handle life issues good or bad the same way over and over,it is ingrained in us.We learn certain behaviors and react accordingly by 3 yrs old,temper tantrums etc... and most of what we learn comes from what we see and how we are raised.If our temper tantrums were dealt with calmly and with love then that is how we learn to deal with out of control emotions.However if the tantrum was dealt with by an Adult who also had a tantrum (out of control) than we never learned to handle life situations by staying in control or keeping our cool!We also learn about healthy boundaries and sympathy at this young age,so if we are parented by angry,out of control people then those very precious golden keys to life are never given to us.Which makes it very hard for us to learn to parent the right way.Yes we love our adorable little tike's,but as soon as the first challenge arises...look out,it will hit the fan!Plus you have probably picked a spouse that reacts just the way one of your parents did,so you are re-creating your childhood all over again.Don't worry habit's can be broken,and with time and baby steps you can heal yourself.Start thinking about how you would like to be treated,get a journal and imagine what your life would be like if you could have it just the way you wanted.Where would you live,work and what would your home be like?Would you cook more,re-paint your bedroom,spend quality time with the kids?If you do not create healthy boundaries for yourself then you will get trampled on and be exhausted.Your life is what you make it,there are tons of books(The 5 languages of love)is a great one to help you figure out what you and the people around you need to feel loved.Re-learning things to help you feel better body,mind and spirit is tough at first,but you deserve to be the very best you that you can be!It doesn't matter what you have been told,you are a precious human being.There are all kinds of people around us,learn who can give what and who can't.We can't give what we don't have! Creating a healthy environment to thrive in is so important,and isn't all that hard to do! With a little effort anything is possible...you can do this!